Has anyone here seen Blackfish? It is the documentary about Orcas in captivity. Horrible, eye opening, heart breaking film, very well put together. Anyway, that is not really the point of this blog. What I wanted to put across was some information I gleaned from it that has stuck with me.
There is a theory (backed by research into whale pods) that support the idea of whales having a much higher emotional platform than we do, so perhaps they experience a wider range of emotions, which they feel on a deeper level, and that whale pods can experience emotions collectively.
That is really cool.
Now, I have experienced something personally in the last few months that has solidified my belief that that is probably true. I’m sure everyone has had a “You’re on my wavelength” moment, where someone completely “gets” their thought process, and arrives at the same conclusion. Or they finish someone else’s sentences. Or they have a “that’s what I was going to say!” moment.
Okay, I have those too. I guess it is pretty common. I suppose you can see where I’m going with this… but something has happened in the last few months that has really freaked me out! So I moved in with my boyfriend, and suddenly…
We are saying or doing things that the other person was literally about to do, but with no outward trigger from the other person.
And they aren’t all easily explainable ones. For example I could understand myself thinking, “ Ahh, we don’t really need the light on” but the second before I get up to turn it off, he has just got up and turned it off. Now that kind of thing happens with us a lot. And I find that weird in itself, but I can explain it away with:
Well maybe we just reached the same conclusion in a coincidentally similar moment, considering we are both being exposed to the same conditions.
It gets a little weirder when I say something like “want a drink?” and his response is “I was just about to ask you that?!” Again that is not the best example but you can see that we aren’t exposed to exactly the same conditions internally, so that’s a little odd. Though admittedly one could just be saying that to the other… though I can guarantee on my side at least, that is NOT the case.
But the ones I really cant get my head around are the ones he would have NO idea that I was thinking about. There are not external triggers, I’m just thinking something to myself, and suddenly he will say something like.. (off the top of my head) “Would you like me to get the hot water bottle out of the car?” or even worse he will just wander out and come back in with it, and I am sitting there thinking… how the HELL did he know I was about to get up and get that?
I wonder how many people experience that. I can honestly say I haven’t experienced it myself before and it is really odd. Funny, alarming, and very, very odd.
I have been in very intensive, close knit relationships before (be it with friends, family, previous partners) and never had that happen.
It. Is. Bizarre.
Anyone had that happen? Comments welcome x